Do you sometimes feel like you have a brick wall between you and your version of success? In my experience the brick wall may be you and the result of your limiting beliefs and fears. Once I learned that my business was the vehicle to bring my skills and talents to the world, and the only way to do that easily was to get out of my own way, I was able to allow success in.
Before I go on, I want to quantify what success is because of course it is different for each of us. So first things first, you need to understand what your version is. This is key, because so many of my clients have been trying to match up to someone else’s version of success, so that even if they achieved it, they wouldn’t recognise it. They had been striving for the unattainable. Its so very easy to buy into the idea that a huge house, fancy car & world domination are success. Yet, none of these things appear in the version my clients want to achieve. To read about my version of success, I mention it in an earlier blog.
As a starting place, I invite you to think about what it was that got you wanting your own business or chosen career path in the first place. What was it you were hoping to achieve?
What has got in the way of stopping you achieving that desire? There may be things out of your control, such as other people who work with you, but this is rarely the case.
If you recognise that your limited success so far has nothing to do with anyone’s else’s input, let’s look at limiting beliefs and fears.
They are closely linked. Sometimes its difficult to distinguish the two. The most common fears I come across are the fear of success or the fear of failure. We are all familiar with the fear of failure. The fear of success may take a little more digging to unearth. It may lurk deep in your subconscious. I love the quote by Marianne Williamson about it, and may help you identify this particular fear in you.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Thoughts around money and ‘enoughness’ are the most common limiting beliefs that I come across. Do you recognise any of these?
‘I don’t deserve to earn more’
‘I can’t keep hold of money’
‘People won’t pay what I want to charge’
‘I’m not good enough’
‘I’m not clever enough’
‘I’m afraid I’ll get found out’
‘I’m not confident enough’
‘I’m not worthy enough’
Once you’ve identified your limiting belief, it can be more easily shifted than you might think. I work with clients using a combination of tools and techniques to help you get out of your own way and it usually takes me just one session to gently release you from it. Here’s what one client said:
“I had a Business Energetics session with Sandra as I was feeling stuck and needed to get my business back. Sandra really got to the heart of the issues that were holding me back and left me feeling energised and raring to go. Thank you Sandra!”
Getting to understand what your beliefs are may be the longest part of the process. It takes some deep searching and honesty to find out what’s holding us back. Sometimes we can work it out for ourselves, other times its easier to work through with an objective person who isn’t going to judge you. This might be a really good friend, or you may want to entrust that depth of enquiry to someone who has experience, and who can hold a safe space to explore it and resolve it once you’ve discovered what it is.
I will take you through a safe process to help you discover what’s holding you back, and then help you gently release it. If you would like to explore this with me, contact me for a free, no obligation chat and I will let you know whether your issue is something I can help you resolve.
If you are a small business owner, check out my Price With Confidence service to help you banish your fears around pricing.